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 Making Mealtimes

  Don’t run a restaurant.


Make one meal, but offer options as to how to have it served.

[Do you want your hamburger on a bun, or on your plate?]  When most of us were kids we ate what was put in front of us.

There was never any ambivalence from our parents about any other options; therefore, we ate.



 Make dinner conversation enjoyable.


This is not the time to admonish a child about her late homework assignment or to question her current choice of friends. This is the time to share ideas and tell stories. This is an opportunity to have that quality time we hear so much about but often don't have time to pursue.



Teach good table manners at home, and miraculously, your children will use good manners in public.


If you wouldn't think it funny to have your child display his mouthful of food to your hosts at a dinner party, I suggest not letting him get away with it at home.



              Relax your attitude about food.


The more focus and attention you place on eating habits, the more of a battleground food will become. Keep a few important points in mind: Kids need to eat more often than three square meals. Kids can thrive eating the same foods over and over and avoiding anything new and different. Kids are hungry when they walk in the door after school - the routine of a healthy after-school snack can ward off all kinds of battles. When healthy options are all that's available, kids will eat healthy food. Mealtime can be enjoyable when you serve the food, then simply take the time to enjoy it, without monitoring everyone else’s eating habits.



Encourage your children to become involved in the meal planning and preparation.


It will motivate them to eat what's served, and it will teach them valuable skills that will enrich their lives. You will probably be pleased to see that they actually enjoy helping in the kitchen.



By Elizabeth Pantley, author of “Kid Cooperation and Perfect Parenting.”

© 2002 Elizabeth Pantley


 USCCB - Faith and Safety


There is a new website from USCCB for helping keep 

children and families safe online:


The website is a partnership  with the Greek Orthodox Archdiocese of America

and it is designed to be a place where families  learn to see technology through the eyes of  faith and stay safe online.

The site offers guidance how to use the Internet, cell phones and video games safely,

as well as protecting children’s privacy.


We encourage you to:

* Share the site with your networks
* Identify areas of the site that you believe could be expanded.




The site is less than a year old and the developers welcome input.
You can send comments to Dominic Perri,
consultant to the USCCB Communications Department, at







 2015 Lenten Resources



Take a moment to peruse the Lenten resources available for the taking in the St. James Chapel at the Archbishop Quigley Center.

These resources are intended for personal use, and include a booklet of daily prayers and reflections, as well as articles on Lenten themes. Copies are available near the sanctuary and by the picture of Fr. Tolton in the vestibule.









How to balance work and family


Yes, you can both have a family and a job. Whether you are a woman or a man, it is possible to balance the responsibilities of both work and family. This does not, however, mean that it is easy to do so. Here are some tips to help you find that the balance that you crave and deserve:


Balance between children and spouses – realize that you do not just need to find time and energy to spend with your kids, but with your spouse, as well. When you have children and a job, it can be difficult to find time for a little romance. Set aside some time at least once a week for just you and your spouse. Hire a babysitter, or even just spend some time together after the children have gone to bed, no matter how tired you are. While spontaneity may be more romantic, sometimes setting up a schedule is more reasonable. Note: while it is important to spend time as a whole family, it is also very important to spend individual time with not just your spouse, but with your children, too.

Keep family and work spheres separate – do not bring your work problems home with you or your family problems to work with you. When you are with your family, you should not be thinking about the client that you lost or the work you will need to complete tomorrow – you need to be thinking about your family!

Involve your family in your work – while you should leave work at work and family at home, you can involve your family in your work. Let them know what you do. Let them share in the excitement of a promotion, etc. If possible, take your children to work with you every once in a while, thereby allowing you to both work and spend time with your kids.

Get some sleep – yes, it can be difficult to find time to sleep when you are trying to find time for work or for your family, but if you are better rested, the time you spend at the office and at home will be better spent. You’ll be able to accomplish more work, and you will therefore be less stressed when at home with your family. And you will be more aware when with your family, as well, make the quality time you spend with them more quality.

Arrange your work schedule to fit your family schedule – work at home when possible. Get a job close to home so that you do not have to waste time commuting. Find the time to attend your children’s dance concerts and baseball games. Call your family when you have breaks at work or when you are on a business trip.

• Have your family at the office – not literally. Instead, bring photos for your desk. Share stories about your family with your co-workers on breaks (do not be excessive in your story-telling, but do not be afraid to bring up the funny thing your five-year-old said yesterday, etc.)


For more tips and ideas specifically for working mothers, check out:





6 Timely Tips for Using Apps with Kids


Do your kids or grandkids use apps on your phone, tablet or e-reader? Of course they do. Many apps are fun, educational and engaging. But before you hand over your mobile device to a youngster, here are six things to know and do from






All parents love their children. But it takes more than love to keep a family strong:

  • Be strong and flexible. Being a good parent means having to look inside yourself to find strength. It also means you have to be open to new ideas.
  • Parents need friends. Let’s face it, coordinating work, arranging childcare, and completing projects around the house can be very difficult. Having friends you can lean on for an extra hand, or who can just listen when you need to vent, can make a world of difference.
  • Being a great parent is part natural and part learned. Some things will come naturally, but learning more about what children really need will make you a better parent, and that will help our children be good parents when they have kids. Find out about classes, books and support groups. Get advice from other parents and from the staff of your childhood center.
  • We all need help sometimes.  When you have problems with alcohol, drugs or depression or just get stressed out, there’s help available. If you lose your job, you can get financial support to pay the bills and keep food on the table. You can get job training and help finding a new job. Your family is depending on you, so if you need help, reach out and ask for it.
  • Give your children the love and respect they deserve. Children are unique human beings. Parents need to build relationships with each of them just like we do with other adults. Kids need to know they are loved, understood, and appreciated for who they are. If we want our children to grow up to be confident and secure adults, we must express our love and concern from the beginning.


 The Power of Choice

Would you like to get your kids

to willingly cooperate?


Stop the daily battles? 

Teach your kids valuable life skills?


 If your answer is Yes, Yes, Yes, read on:


Do you sound like a drill sergeant?

There are so many things we must get our children to do and so many things we must stop them from doing!  Get up. Get dressed. Don't dawdle.  Do your homework..Eat. Don't hit your brother. It goes on and on.And to make matters worse - our  kids resist our orders and demands.



There is an effective solution!

We can get our kids to cooperate and at the same time allow them to learn self-discipline and develop good decision making skills. How?


Offer choices

Children love having the privilege of choice. It takes the pressure out of your request and allows a child to  feel in control, and thus be more willing to comply. This is a powerful tool that can be used with toddlers through teens.


How many choices?

Younger children can handle two choices: Milk or juice? Sneakers or shoes? You do it or me? Walk or run? As children get older we can offer more choices: Before dinner, after dinner, or in the morning? Wear your coat, carry it, or put on a sweatshirt? Teens can be given general guidelines and rules.


Be specific.

If you ask, "What do you want for breakfast?" and your child answers "pizza" you've set yourself up for a battle. Instead offer choices or options that are all good for her, "Do you want toast and fruit, cereal or waffles?"


Use time as a choice.

Often there really is only ONE acceptable choice. You wouldn't say, "Do you want to go to bed tonight or tomorrow?"  You could say, "Do you want to  watch 5 more minutes of TV or 10?" "What do you want to do first, brush your teeth or put on your pajamas?"


If your child won’t choose?

Offer a choice! (!?What??) Yes! It still works! "Do you want to choose, or shall I choose for you?" If your child gets stubborn, you can say, "I see you want me to choose".Then follow through! For example, what if you ask your child if she wants to do her homework before dinner, after dinner or in the morning and she "decides"  to go to bed without doing her homework. Just wake her [cheerfully] at 6:00 am with a gentle reminder that it was her choice to do it this way.


Giving choices ends struggles.

Offering choices is a peaceful way to encourage cooperation while avoiding the power struggles that so often erupt when a parent gives an order. When a child chooses his own plan of action he is more likely to follow through with a pleasant attitude, and learn decision-making skills that he will carry with him to adulthood. So, do you want to start offering choices today or tomorrow?

By Elizabeth Pantley, author of “Kid Cooperation and Perfect Parenting.”
© 2002 Elizabeth Pantley


 House Bill 5990


Amendments to the Children’s Advocacy Center Act


HB 5990 updates the Children’s Advocacy Center Act to accurately reflect how
Children’s Advocacy Centers (CACs) in Illinois operate and should be created today.
This bill benefits Chicago CAC by helping solidify its role in responding to abuse,
and the role of all child advocacy centers throughout the state.
The bill is currently waiting its third reading on the senate floor.

Show your support for HB5990

Help show your support for CACs by thanking the
senate co-sponsors of HB5990.


Click the button below to email them our customizable template email.

 Take Action

If you have questions or would like more information,
contact Trevor Peterson:
or 312-492-3728





 5 things to know about girls in STEM fields Science, Technology, Engineering, and Mathematics

  March 2014

1. To combat grim statistics which indicate that women only
make up 24% of jobs in STEM (science, technology, engineering, and mathematics) fields,
more and more opportunities are popping up for girls in these areas than ever before.

2. Some toy companies, like Goldie Blox and Roominate, are steering away
from gender-based marketing and selling building
toys designed to stimulate innovation and creativity.

3. Historic organizations, such as the YWCA and Girl Scouts of America, which offers over 30 badges for
STEM-related activities, are actively encouraging girls’ interest in STEM fields.

4. Camps like Girlstart and Camp Reach make STEM learning fun by giving girls creative,
hands-on experience with scientific experiments and engineering concepts.

5. Check out the NSTeens video Attitude Overdrive to meet Becks, the ultimate gamer girl.
Video games are a great way to introduce more girls to STEM.


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