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30,050 cases of child abuse were investigated and proved in the state of

Illinois in 2013 8,483 of these cases were in Cook County alone





From Parents for Parents


1. Establish a daily routine with your child and stick to it as much as possible. Children behave better in a daily, predictable routine.


2. Make sure you plan for "me" time. You need some time for yourself and a break from your child.


3. Learn to listen—really listen—to what your child is saying.


4. Join a parent support group to meet other parents. Knowing other parents for support and advice is important. You’ll find that you’re not alone.


5. Speak respectfully to your child just like you would to anyone else. Never call your child harmful names.


6. When your anger starts getting out of control, walk away and regain control. It is better to do nothing than to do something you will regret.


7. Never share a bed with your small child. Children need their own crib or bed for safe sleep.


8. Allow your child to get to know other people and children. If you need to leave your child with someone, the separation anxiety will be easier if he or she is familiar with other people. It is also important that you really know and trust who you leave your child with.


9. If your relationship with your spouse/partner is troubled, get help. Parenting is easier when parents (and other adults in the household) get along well and maintain a united front on parenting issues.


10. Give your child what he or she needs and what is best for them but not necessarily everything they want.



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All parents get angry at their children— sometimes even very angry. Whatever the reason, it is important that you keep in control of your anger so that you can always act responsibly for the good of your child and demonstrate to your child the correct ways of handling anger.


Here are some tips to help you the next time you feel angry at your child.


 Determine ahead of time what you will never do, and stick to it when you are angry: "I will not hit or slap my child." "I will not yell and scream." "I will not call my child hurtful names."


 Ask yourself four quick questions:

  • "What is making me angry?"
  • "What does my child feel, need, or want?
  • "Are my expectations unrealistic?"
  • How do I best respond in this moment?


 Empathize with what your child is feeling: "Yes, it sounds like that made you angry or confused you." Empathy can reduce anger.


 Deliberately lower your voice if the conversation is heating up. This can inject calm into the situation and keep it from getting out of control. It also signals that you are in control.


 Cool down before you make threats or issue harsh punishments. Tell your child that you will discuss the consequences for her behavior later.


 Calmly remove your child from a situation that is making him angry or redirect him to another activity.


 Take a time out from the situation if you feel you are losing control of your anger and do something to relieve it: take a walk, take deep breaths, or call a friend for support. If your child is too young for you to leave alone, go in the next room for a moment and gain control.


If you struggle controlling your anger, seek help from a friend, another parent, educator, clergy, counselor, pediatrician or other health professional. Join a parent support group. Every parent needs some extra help and support from time to time.


Always remember, you LOVE your child!





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Signs of Child Abuse


Children who are abused may show physical and
behavioral warning signs. Pay attention to the treatment
of children around you; you may be a child’s only lifeline to safety.
Possible signs of an abused child include
• Nervousness around adults or fear of certain adults
• Reluctance to go home
• Behavioral tendencies to be passive and withdrawn or aggressive
   and disruptive
• Complaints of nightmares or not sleeping well
• Running away from home
• Sexual knowledge or behavior beyond his or her age
• Acting overly mature or overly immature
• Lack of emotional attachment to caregivers
• Delays in physical or emotional development
• Lack of supervision at too young an age

 Possible signs of an abusive caretaker

• Little concern for child’s welfare
• Denial of problems
• Frequent blame, belittling, or insulting of child
• Complaints that the child is a burden
• Dependence upon child for emotional support
• Secretive behavior, isolating child from others


Types of behavior not always recognized as child abuse include
• Constant criticism and rejection
• Threats to withhold love
• Exposure to domestic violence
• Hitting a child even if abuse is not intended
• Exposure to sexualized materials such as pornography
• Disinterest and lack of attention

None of these signs is proof of child abuse but may signal that something is wrong and help is needed.

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Pinwheels Across the Nation

Across the nation, Prevent Child

Abuse America chapters take part in

Pinwheels for Prevention®.


What started as a grassroots effort is customized

throughout the country to fit the concerns

of local communities.


Read more about the activities taken on at the

state and community

level in our Chapter Case Studies:


2012 Chapter Case Studies













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